by Johnnie S Laney

Everyone wants true love. We dream about it, we watch movies about it, we work hard to get into relationships to find it. We are hardwired physically with intimacy needs about true love.

We work hard to get into a good relationship and things go great for a time. We feel excited and happy and we sense the wonderful feeling of true love. But over time, the longer we stay together, that feeling starts to go away. We often start to see their warts or they see ours and this can cause conflict and divorce.

To find true love often seems easier than keeping true love, doesn’t it? If it was easy to keep true love, we’d all be living happily ever after. So how do you keep true love alive? There are several ways.

To begin with, understand that there are phases to every relationship, and you wont stay in the honeymoon phase for too long. But just because you move into the next phase of me/us, where some separation and conflict occurs, it doesnt mean true love is gone. True love just changes form.

Another thing that is vital to understand with true love is that it is about giving as well as receiving. You have to give your time and loving attention to your mate regularly. And your mate has to give some loving attention to you. You cant keep true love if you are doing all the giving or all the receiving.

A third key to true love is to PLAY. Play is vital to a healthy, loving, intimate relationship. Play with your mate on a regular basis, in bed and out. Dont let the burdens and responsibilities of adulthood and job kill off the play in your relationship.

So do you play often with your spouse? Is a date night a regular part of our schedule? If you have forgotten to play or gotten out of the habit, a little focus can bring it back fairly quickly. Playing together for just a few minutes several times a week can do wonders for keeping true love alive.

True love is not static. It is an ongoing effort. But don’t give up on true love because it is challenging. Pay attention to the factors that increase it and keep learning more about it and you will reap the rewards of having more true love in your love life.

About the Author:
You can learn much more about Relationship Intelligence like this in the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School at Train Your Mate To Love. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship IQ courses and you can get more here Relationship Problem Help.


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