Saving A Marriage

Before you were married, if you had to choose between a romantic relationship and one that was dull and boring, which one would you choose?  The most probable reason why you choose your partner was that he or she was passionate, romantic and full of life. A passionate romantic relationship was fun when you were single, so why couldn’t it still be today even though you’re a little older and married. 

How would you describe your marriage? Did you still have that warmth in your relationship? You say you’ve more important things to do and worry about now, such as paying the bills and taking care of the children. Sure, those things are very important but so is making time, quality time, for each other. Many marriages have reached to the point of divorce just because of absence of love and affection.

Rediscover romance and rekindle the spark in your marriage.It can be done even though you’re both older and covered up with duties at home and office.  At first you might feel guilty and selfish by spending time alone just to be together and have fun, but the guilt will fade and you might fall in love all over again. And, when you have to go back to work you do it with a rejuvenated spirit. Your colleagues may ask why you are smiling for a change.

Lets start with concentrating on the positive deeds. Remember the old song that went, “You’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative, don’t mess with Mr. In-between.” 

Okay, you are probably not that aged – but listen to the message here. Nowadays, they just say think positively and that’s good too. But, make sure you stop seeing the negative side of your spouse and emphasize the positive qualities.  They’re there if you look.

You don’t have to be newlyweds to experience romance and intimacy.Spark up the romance in your relationship again.  You did sweet, thoughtful things while getting to know each other. 

You have exchanged gifts, gone for long driving, have a candle light dinner and probably quoted poetry for each other. You may think you know everything about your partner and if that’s so, why aren’t they happy? Why you are not happy?

Getting older too often means getting serious…too serious. Become a kid again. No, not all the time but once in a while do something childish together and laugh. Go to the park and push each other in a swing, jump rope, do a dance that was popular “back then.” You don’t have to do it long, but loosen up and give it a go. Likely you’ll both be laughing before you make it to a bench to sit down and rest.

Back home, give each other a massage. Start with the feet and see where it goes from there. The better you make someone else feel, the better you will feel. Prepare breakfast for your partner and serve it in the bed.No one knows where that will lead?  Before you part for the day, slip a love note in a purse or pocket.You know what you have to write.

Other things have probably come to mind that you want to try to bring back a little romance to your relationship. Go for it!  You don’t have to try all things in one day but at least get started and your marriage will be better for it.

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